My next chapter ....

[missmyfriend]

I agree that it is important to consider the "me" but I am always concerned that some people will move from "all about everyone else except for me" to "I have to consider me first before anyone else". I don't think you are saying that. I know that our spouses, WAS, MLC, dropout, droplet, whatever, somehow got to the point, possibly listening to a "good friend" when they said "what about me?"

No one should be a martyr. Then again, we have to be careful that we don't cause harm to others including our children by doing exactly what our self concerned spouses have done to us and those around us.

I hope you take care of yourself in this.