NS - I am a LDW. It is very frustrating for me. Has your W been to doctors to have thyroid and testosterone checked? Natural testosterone helped me but I stopped because it made me gain weight.
No she hasn't.
Originally Posted By: Light Seeker
Do you listen to your W? For example, I've told my H I enjoy showering together, but he always wants to turn it into sex. That's not what I said. Now, I don't want to shower together.
I learned about listening quite recently, in fact, broswsing other sections of this board. The trick is what a women considers listening isn't the same (or natural) to men. I'm working on it.
Originally Posted By: Light Seeker
I don't know enough about your situation to say much here. I don't talk about movie stars. I love my H and can appreciate the good in him. I hate having polarized sex drives. The pressure from society, H, self to be some hot woman is incredible. I have great stresses in my life, but I believe my H could help by meeting me halfway. Are you doing that?
I'm trying. She has stress too (though a lot of it self inflicted.) Meeting half way would be a lot easier for me if "they" were not in the picture. To me, you are either LD or you a not. To me, talking about wanting other man isn't LD. That's why I posted here. I asked a few very close friends if they do it, all of them said no. They are honest, they have each told me worse.
The result of all this has me feeling used. To me, I feel like I'm just another household chore that needs to be done a few times a month. If my salary was cut in half, I bet she'd be out the door.
