MM - I'm not trying to be hard on you here, but she probably feels like I do when my H brings up anything about the topic. I think "here we go again" or "not again" or "doesn't anything else matter?"
Heck, I sometimes went years without bringing anything up about the topic whatsoever. Wow was that ever effective.
Originally Posted By: Packerfan
While every R has different issues that may drive the HD/LD issue, one common denominator is that one spouse won't allow sex. It is not just a matter of not equally embracing it or equally initiating it, it is, at its core, one spouse is "blocking the goal" and the other has a series of really sucky alternatives at that point. You might WANT your husband to treat you in a certain way or jump through various hoops to get some, but at the end of the day, since you are the LD spouse, at the end of the day you have 100%, or close to it, control over whether you have sex or not. That level of control and powerlessness drives many HD spouses to frustration, which manifests itself in a lot of ways, most of them not pretty.
PF, I concur. Bottom line - for a HD/LD sitch to improve, both parties likely need to work on it. But the ball is way more completely in the LD party's court for the reason you mentioned.
