Any suggestions on how to transition from house talk to "where do we stand in your mind" talk?
So I would stick to house conversation, and as DA says, see how it goes. In terms of the house conversation itself, I would keep it light. Perhaps just go with the reasons about how you guys were never too keen on it anyway, and how you'd been planning to seel before in any case. I think any mention of the financial impact of H not being around would count as pressure, so I would avoid that if it's possible......
You could mention that you've been thinking about what kind of appt you'd like to live in and then leave things hanging. He then has an opening to say something about his plans. If he doesn't, you have DBed well and demonstrated your independence. And maybe depending how he answers, you will gain some insight into what is in his mind (decision, or ongoing confusion)......
Originally Posted By: Beth 83
UGH! Moving away from my marriage?! What am I supposed to do? I want to be married but we can't afford our house w/ H's salary!
I like the renting suggestion from DA- any possibilities there? IMHO, I think that selling the house does NOT have to mean you are moving away from the marriage. You're doing what's responsible and mature, and looking after your best interests, and H's, since you own the house together and staying is financially tough.
Lots of the WAS on the boards leave and rent their own appt. It's a step on the journey, and could even be a jolt to get him thinking about what he is losing- lovely smart Beth!
