Interesting exchange yesterday between W and me. She emails me asking if it's o.k. for her to go out of town on 2/13 and if it fit into my schedule.
I just replied that the only think on my schedule was a hearing in court that my best friend that I truly adore is trying to have me kicked out of my house.
I guess she had forgotten that the petition she filed to have me out of here had a hearing date of 2/13. That blew me away. And, on the same day, I got an update on the D papers that had to be re-filed, because she had our wedding date incorrect on those.
So...she replies back. "Oh....we don't have to go to court if you want to agree on something. I know you don't want to live apart...but this might be the thing that will make me feel differently. All of those people talked about how after 6 and 9 months they felt differently...We don't have to sign papers right away...just have space. I am asking you...please..."
This is crazy. She is referring to the articles I gave her off this site. She has been reading them and I know she took them to work this morning. I think she wants space to date and screw these weirdo's at work. Thats what "space" means to me. That would be the end of it for me, her dating and sleeping around. I dont think I could handle that. She just wants me to agree to her needs, which is for me to leave. Not happening.
The thing is, our relationship drastically improves when we spend time together. I have totally figured this out. Every time we have gone out to dinner - whatever, we become closer. And many of those times its physical. So, I dont think the answer for us to get closer is to be apart. The answer is for us to spend more quality time together. Problem is, thats not what she wants right now. She wants to see if there is someone better than me out there for her.
Anyway, I never responded to her about this. She has been very nice to me since last weekend, even starting converstations. That is different. And, last night she apologized that I had made dinner and our kids were busy...we had a bunch of snow and they hooked up with friends. She had said she was sorry this happened and wanted to know if I was mad about this....I wasnt, but it was a bummer to make all this dinner and eat by myself.
