One day at a time seems to be working just fine

[missmyfriend]

FW, it is funny because I have thought about the financials for quite a bit more than I should. Although, it is so important just to have my W back home, I think about how we have been impacted with her earning an income and not helping with anything.

My S11 made a comment after scouts the other night that he wanted to get a haircut. I said to him that his mom will have him the next night and following day so he should check with her. This wasnt my trying to get my wife to carry some parental responsibility. It was simply a matter of convenience since there wouldn't be an opportunity to do so. My S said I dont want to ask mom because she doesnt have much money. I chuckled and said I am sure it is okay son because I take care of the four of us and she only has herself to take care of financially. Oops. I did not mean that to come out but it did. Damage already done.

Anyway, when my W comes home (how is that for positive thinking), I have no intention of worrying about her finances or her paycheck until she is ready to merge the two together again. I expect her to retain her own accounts (we always had one account but she never earned a consistent paycheck until she left) so we can write checks to each other when we need to pay shared bills.