Engagement

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Fearless: Would it be okay with you if she stayed introverted and uncomfortable with phone calls IF she took on the responsibility of understanding her sexuality? Would it be okay if she called and scheduled the appointment but still was unable to figure out her issues with sex?

Solid Mechanic: I'm talking about seeing her show some active sign that my needs matter to her. That it is important to her that we make our marriage a success. One little phone call.

To be clear: The little PHONE CALL is the most important thing to you right now???

It's possible that she's confused about that because I know I am a bit. I thought figuring her sexuality out would be the most important thing.

I'm really not trying to be hard on you because I don't think you've taken this lightly and I know you have thought a lot about this. I'm just trying to give an outsider's POV and at least to me I would not understand that the phone call was every bit if not MORE important to you than the sexual issues so I just wonder if your wife knows this.

I'm talking about seeing her show some active sign that my needs matter to her.

And thinking a bit more about this. Didn't you say your wife was a bit flirtatious with you and rubbing your feet? Didn't she act "better" when you talked about being aroused? Didn't she apologize for being testy toward you?

I just wonder if those are active signs too that MIGHT be being ignored because now you are focused on the "one little phone call" as THE sign that making your marriage a success is important to her. She MIGHT be thinking that she is focusing her energy on the "right" problem and it would turn out that the phone call is the bigger issue.

Just wondering...