Engagement

[Burgbud]

(Lil) I'm saying that SM making the call is NOT rescuing Mrs. SM.

We disagree about that. I believe him making the call IS rescuing her.

I agree with what SM said earlier...if she came to him and said, "Honey, I really want to call the counselor and get us started on the road to repairing our marriage but I get so anxious and I just can't bring myself to do it", then maybe. As of now, though, she's said she'll make the call. For him to take over would be rescuing and enabling her to be passive-aggressive, whether she's actually being P/A or not.

Maybe she doesn't actually want to work on the marriage and that's why she doesn't call. If that's the case, him calling for her isn't going to accomplish anything.