MM - I'm not trying to be hard on you here, but she probably feels like I do when my H brings up anything about the topic. I think "here we go again" or "not again" or "doesn't anything else matter?"
My advice? (not that you asked for it) Find out what she likes. Start outside of sex and then several weeks later try a bath together or a massage. Stop there.
I say this because...there are nights I yearn to be touched...to be held. I don't always tell my H because I'm afraid of starting something I can't finish. I wish I was wired so I could just do something for him, but I'm not. I need to feel that bond.
If you are still together, there is something holding you together. Everyone has problems of some nature. No relationship is perfect. If she wants to keep the M and you, she'll respond to the attention. If she doesn't, then that says something to you and only you can decide if you can live that way.
I told my H what I could and could not tolerate in his behavior. He told me as much regarding sex. My situation is far from resolved, but we are still trying. I have to believe if you are here posting, you still want things to work.
