Is there anything that she enjoys? Showers together? Conversation and wine? What I'm trying to get to is, if you can explain (and make sure the timing is right - timing is very important) how being sexual isn't just about meeting your needs but a special gift that you can give to her. That you're sorry she doesn't enjoy it because you would like to make her feel good. That maybe you could take baby steps to work towards at least "wanting" to be together (as opposed to desire). I don't know - just tossing out ideas. Massage maybe?
See post #1340936 from page one of this thread.
As to "make her feel good" - giving, and satisfying a woman was always integral to my enjoyment of sexual relations (well, back in the day, anyhow). Her response to this was to point out that my desire to provide satisfaction to her was just another form of my own selfishness. Oh well!
