A little jello is good for the soul. Doesn't it say that somewhere? Or maybe 85% of the people said that. Or was it 15%? Glad you are hanging in there. Cemar enjoys looking at things from his standpoint since as long as he sticks to it he doesn't have to change a thing NOR cop to his own failures and inadequacies.
On "Everything is great but the sex" Can this be true? Well, no, probably not. Everything can certainly be good, functional, even simply better than what most of my friends or family has in their marriage DESPITE the sexual issues. Would getting the sexual issues fixed help everything else ?? I believe so. Unlike many on this forum I have something far worse to compare my current R issues with. I have an exH who was essentially non-functional as an adult. Together we had so many areas of our life that were non-functional that I KNOW beyond a shadow of a doubt IT COULD BE MUCH WORSE, even seriously unhappy. So, my description of my marriage as basically happy, being good partners and good friends is true. My H doesn't always hold up his end perfectly and neither do I. He failed me with the car accident and he failed to support me much during this last pregnancy, emotionally. But he DID take over a lot of the parts necessary to keep our home running, bills paid, kids growing up and doing well in school and life etc.... So, maybe I asked too much. Maybe he is having problems that have nothing to do directly with the R but they are affecting the R - like depression. That would affect his ability to support me emotionally and affect him sexually. Would things be better if he could communicate better and quit making me guess - SURE. I have never said that everything is perfect but the sex, I have never said that he was my soulmate sent directly from God except for the sex, I simply have asserted that we have a good, functional relationship with shared values, give and take, enough to sustain things at a level that is too good to just dump in the dumpster. KWIM??? When you have had the reality of a very unhappy marriage you don't throw away a decent one very easily.
