I am doing my best to try to trust my H. I am sure it is hard to just make a clean break and it will take time to dissolve the relationship with ex-OW 100%. But you are right, he has had the opportunity now to wrap things up. She knows he is going to try and work it out with me. She knows he is moving to Omaha. She knows he didn't get his apartment. And I am sure he has told her a million times that he still cares about her and is sorry he hurt her in this process, I just know he would say something like that b/c he does care and feels guilty.
But that is all that they should have to discuss. He kept saying he came home that night instead of staying w/her b/c he wants us to work it out. Part of me thinks he came only b/c I said if he ever stayed out all night again I would leave him for good.
Which brings me to tonight. It is Tuesday, BOWLING NIGHT. In case you are new to my posts, ex-OW is on the team. And H's best drinking bachelor buddy Jordan is too. Last Tuesday he spent the night "on Jordan's couch" according to him. That is when I told him never another night out all night or we were finished.
Saturday during our talk I told him that if he went out w/Jordan after bowling, I would have every reason to think he was with ex-OW since that is what happened Friday when he was out w/Jordan. So he said, "I will just come home early Tuesday after bowling and not go out". I guess tonight we will see. I feel like I put it out there Saturday, saying I can't trust him to go out after bowling with all that has happened. So if he does, I think I should say/do something. I know traditional DB says when the spouse keeps going out and you nag you should do something different, like go to bed first and not ask them any questions. But I feel like we are past that. I know I am worrying before I have anything to worry about. But I feel like I should have a plan in place if he stays out late and/or all night. I just can't deal with that anymore. If he comes home after bowling I will feel more confident that he IS trying to make it work. If not, any suggestions on what to do?
