MM - has she read the SSM? That was a real eye opener for me.
Yep. Although I bought a copy years ago and recommended it, she did not read it until things came to a head during last year. Not sure that it made much of an impression.
One of the things she came back with was, in so many words, "so, how many times per week/month will we have to have sex so that you'll be happy?" Now, just for a moment, consider that response. A. The message I got, in her query for what a satisfactory "quota" would be, was that her agreeing to have sex with me was some sort of concession on her part; IOW, an open acknowledgement that she'd be the one "giving" sex, while I'd be "receiving" her favors. Do you see anything insulting about that? B. For me, quantity (although our encounters were rare) was never the main issue; the problem was that she had no desire to be sexual with me. If pressed, she would willingly engage in intercourse, but it was disspirited and she wanted the act to be over with as quickly as possible. I found this to be worse than no sex at all.
