NS - I am a LDW. It is very frustrating for me. Has your W been to doctors to have thyroid and testosterone checked? Natural testosterone helped me but I stopped because it made me gain weight.
My H has been verbally abusive - he claims it is all a result of his frustration. Whatever the reason, we are both trying to move forward.
Do you listen to your W? For example, I've told my H I enjoy showering together, but he always wants to turn it into sex. That's not what I said. Now, I don't want to shower together.
I don't know enough about your situation to say much here. I don't talk about movie stars. I love my H and can appreciate the good in him. I hate having polarized sex drives. The pressure from society, H, self to be some hot woman is incredible. I have great stresses in my life, but I believe my H could help by meeting me halfway. Are you doing that?
