Engagement

[Burgbud]

(fearless) You have laid out a pretty hefty list of things your wife needs to do. And on top of that you also want her to confront another issue with phone calls/introversion. I guess I would have to ask you which is the larger problem in your marriage – your wife's introversion or her issues with sex? Would it be okay with you if she stayed introverted and uncomfortable with phone calls IF she took on the responsibility of understanding her sexuality? Would it be okay if she called and scheduled the appointment but still was unable to figure out her issues with sex? To me, that is how I would decide what was critical in this process.

I know we always tend to overanalysis 'round these parts, but we're talking about a grown adult making a telephone call. SM hasn't indicated she's actually phobic so I don't think her using the phone is analagous to an acrophobic walking across a 500' high bridge.

I don't particularly care for using the phone myself. But c'mon. This is excuse making at its finest.