true. But think the opposite, how many women that have problems with desire can actually BE in a PM. By the definitions of PM from the book, I'm not sure that a women with LD can even be IN a PM, it requires the physical desire of your spouse.

Gee they are YOUR statistics. And even believing your assumptions that 100% of the 15% of HD women are in the 20% PMs (meaning I guess that there are no single HD women out there) that still leaves room for the women with desire issues to be in 5% of the PM marriages. Did you see that???


Since I have no idea where the 85% number comes from or how the issues with desire is defined, I cannot really debate the point. I will mention that I think an HD person can still have "problems" with desire at times. Plus I find it odd to only have 2 categories of women - LD and HD. I'm not LD but I'm not sure that I would consider myself HD necessarily either. I don't have any hang-ups (that I know of:)) and I've always enjoyed sex but I'm not necessarily dying for it everyday. I do enjoy physical touch even if I don't feel "up" for sex. I will "turn down" sex at times even though I do desire my H (just feel exhausted, etc.). So where does that place me??

I think that labeling someone as an LD person is probably the worst thing you can do for opening up the door to a better relationship. It defines your wife in such a negative way that it would be very difficult to see any positive behavior in her because you are only looking for the negative.



But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? ~Albert Camus