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[Dom R]

My wife and I have been married for 5 yrs. I have 2 kids from prev. marriage and we have 2 together.

so why did you leave your "prev. marriage"?
sounds like maybe you dont really believe in the concept of "marriage for life"?

Becuase that concept is completely antithetical to the attitude of, "i'll stay for as long as I'm happy"

I bet if you asked 50 couples who had been married 50 years, that not one of them would say, "we've never had a bad year".

sounds like half the "problems" in your marriage, are just attitude issues on your side. for example, "She did help with kids and house chores, but not as I think a stay at home mom should."

Are the kids fed, clean, and taken care of?
IF the answer is "yes", then maybe you need to just cut your wife some slack and get over yourself.
Sounds like the one making you the most unhappy in your marriage... is you.

No one is perfect. No one is YOU, either.
If you dont like how your wife cleans the house or whatever... how about you do it yourself?
(you have FOUR CHILDREN messing up the house. sheesh...)

I just cant ever se me being happy with again the W.......

once again: when you got married, did you promise to stay with her, "for as long as I'm happy with you?"

If you stop focusing on "am I happy?", and focus instead on, "am *I* doing everything I can to make my marriage a good one?", then your marriage will improve. And as a happy side effect, you will feel better about it!