Engagement

[Burgbud]

(Lil) ...OTOH YOU'RE the one who wants her to do this.

SM told his W their M is in serious trouble. Her response was that they should get counseling. SHE'S the one who wants to do this. HE wants more sex, not more counseling.


Rescuing is when person B won't do his or her own work and person A rushes in to do person B's work for them, kwim?

That's exactly the situation SM finds himself in. He's doing well by not rescuing.

I don't understand how merely "suggesting counseling" is her work and setting it up is SM's work. It's not.