Hi there Woog and Bobbi and anyone else following my saga of what not to do to save your M. I think my paesano Phil has given up on me.
I am doing ok. I am trying to act as if at home,however, there is always a part of me that says that status quo will not work. A little shock would only help. Instead I have really gone into overdrive as far as helping out (actually it's not helping out, she can not continue with her career without me picking up the slack). She thanks me on a regular basis and is at the point now where she is uneasy accepting my "favors" (making supper, taking over D7's school related "things", cleaning W,s boots, making sure her windshiled washer fluid is topped off in her vehicle etc.). I feel good when I do certain acts of kindness. I think I should get that languages of love book that some folks on these boards write about.
W has not gotten back to me regarding D7, lawyer mediation, me moving out or putting the house up for sale. Like I told her, announcing to D7 coupled with me moving out would probably put an end to our M for good. This is wrong to say but it is the way I feel right now. It may change but right now if we go through with these two steps, i will be the one filing for divorce and putting the house up for sale (which she is not able to do for some reason).
What I took from the supper is the fact that she needs or wants my friendship going forward, is still having doubts, is beginning to wonder why she is not able to sustain relationships in general and feels compelled to end them all. I was very surprised that she wanted to go for supper with me. If it happens again I will have to make sure that I concenrate on only having fun and leave everything else behind (including sexual advances).
So, I am in limboland acting as if untl the next storm hits.
By the way since I have kept my folks up to date on what is going on, they are now pressuring me lovingly to get out. So, Woog i know that you have not told many people....my advice keep it that way as long as you can. you don't need that type of "pressure".
