So if your partner is a great parent (which my bf is), a great child to his/her parent (which my bf is), shares your interests, likes the same kind of lifestyle you do, shares or at least is interested in your religion... but doesn't reach for you sexually in the most intimate kind of sharing... how great can it REALLY be?
Ahhh...now this is a dilemma, isn't it? Here you have a person who has everything you want, except for that one thing. I can play devil's advocate and say that any one of these things can lead to the exact same outcome as lack of sex. I can tell you from first hand experience that you can have buffet-style sex but still want out. Makes you wonder if you are just chasing the rainbow. OTOH, maybe what one really needs is the general purpose partner, not really outstanding in any areas but will not create a vacuum. I don't know.
Ask 100 middle aged couples who have been happily married what the f'n secret is. Diminished expectations? No credit limit? Mistress/pool boy? A wine cellar? Multiple hobbies?
