If you spend all your time trying to ficure out what's in her head, you'll have no energy left for you. Let it go.
As a simple example, my WAW left a voice mail for a lame reason and then said "have a happy birthday". I am so glad I didn't get the call because I know it would have just warped my mind and then my whole day. I just have to remember she is really confused right now. I will never figure why she did and/is doing this and definitely no way I'll understand what's in her head. No sense in doing that, let it go. She will be blunt when she wants something different. Yours will be to.
