I guess what I'm trying to say is, does it matter? Even if everything is hunky-dory everywhere else, it would take a saint to be able to compartmentalize the sex conflict and not allow it to bleed over into everything else ... primarily, their attitude. People who feel guilty about considering leaving or throwing down gauntlets because "It's just the sex; everything else is great" are missing the fact that it won't *stay* "just the sex".
K, amen. "everything is great but the sex. Can this be true"? is a question for deeper philosphers than me. Perhaps it CAN be true for a pair of matched LD's, but otherwise, given a couple with grossly mismatched levels of desire, who can tell? The lack of a satisfying sexual relationship "bleeds", as you put it, into other areas - loss of intimacy, repressed feelings, etc. etc. to the point where it's hard to say if "it can be true" or not.
