I am so confused, not sure what hand I am playing

[Snow White]

Thanks, my first instinct was to contact the OW's spouse out of anger and so he could know. The reason I did not is because my understanding is that the reason they(she and my h) initially started talking and becoming closer(and his excuse for the majority of the calls) is because he was trying to help her through an abusive relationship and get set up to leave her spouse. In fact as crazy as this sounds a senior manager in his company had promised her a promotion if she left him because they were concerned enough about what was going on. Now that doesn;t even sound legal to me, but that is along the lines of the way his company has worked. His concern was that she was being pressured by management to leave her significant other but no one was helping her through the fall out of it.

He has told his best friend who I talked to following. His friend of course only has one side of the story but seems to think that it happened (he told him only one ohysical encounter as well)and is not happening anymore. I told him my concerns about the house and other loses that as opposed to my husband wanting me and he seemed to think that was nonsense.

he frist couple weeks following my discovery of the phone bills and asking him not to call anymore he almost seemed in a withdrawal, very tired, waking up in the middle of the night tossing and turning, biting his nails. In the past week or so he has seemed more himself, animated in discussions sleeping and eating normally. Hopefully this is a good sign, not a one that he's not in withdrawal because he's not withdrawling

Thanks again for the input - Neecy