Thought I'd check in and see how you are. I started to post on Surviving, because DB strategies have not worked for me, and I was just trying too hard, for absolutely ZERO return in 15 months. Once I made the decision to tell her I was putting money away, I felt totally empowered. It was like I took charge of everything. A huge load off my back. I spoke with a co-worker in the States today, who told me my W. was totally self-centered and a mean person. while this was not all her fault, for sure, I'm beginning to see thius as true.
If she closes the joint account, I can re-route ALL of my pay, and send her a check. I refuse to be a martyr. It's just not worth it. If you have the eneergy look in on me from time to time. I'll do the same.
