In this situation, guilt will eat us alive. I feel your frustration. She consistently gives you nibbles to up your hopes, and just as quickly dashes them. Ugh. Maddening. I have started to post on Surviving, because I just sent the emial to my W. telling her that I would be saving for my return. I got no response. None expected,except to rip my head off. Good luck. I'll check back.
I think when we can let go of fear of saying or doing the wrong thing that just might be the "one thing" that pushes them over the tipping, we're much better off. Be a decent, kind, considerate human being, but not a lap dog. That's all you can do. If you spend all your time trying to ficure out what's in her head, you'll have no energy left for you. Let it go.
