I am feeling more positive, still a ways to go yet, but moving in the right direction.
I have had a thought today... might be stupid or might be genius!! The OM is back with his wife and is trying to make it work with his wife for the sake of his 6yo son (I think thats the case). I think he and my W have moved over into just an `inappropriate friendship`. I am of course still not happy with this. She has to see him everyday, so there is not a lot I can do about that. So I wondered about ways of turning that Inappropriate friendship into just regular friendship. (I know that I am thinking about things I cant control). I wondered if he was serious about trying to get his marriage to work (and I think he might be because of his son), should I pass the DB and DR books to him to have a look at. Is that just stupid or is it genius? My wife care for him as she thinks he has a lot of sorrow in his life, and wants to help him through it. I wonder what she would say to my suggestion. She said she has already backed off from him a bit to give his marriage a chance. Part of me is doing this for myself of course, if I give the OM the tools to make up with his wife, he may leave mine alone! Another part of me, doesnt want to see his son needlessly hurt if things go bad.
Any thoughts? Steve
Me 27 W 30 M 2yrs/ T 5yrs Expecting our first child Sept 08 warning bomb (has feelings for someone) 21/12/08 I found out about OM (by snooping) 14/1/08 Living together.
