I was reading your initial post where you said things such as,
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Gained too much weight during pregnancy, H was no longer attractive to me (not that I felt that he was all that attracted to me to begin with). [. . . ] I feel even more unattractive w/ my post-baby body, and now don't really want sex anymore either. [. . . ]my body is disgusting. is he still hard?
It seemed to me that you were describing your body as something quite different than "healthy people" who exercise and eat right.
So, what's the truth? Are you healthy? Are you overweight?
As for the healthy emotional aspect, I'm seeing lots of self-esteem issues (which are also tied into your body image) and some stuff going on with depression related to sex (you cry when you touch yourself).
I'm not a psychologist. It just sounded to me like you needed to work on yourself and stop focusing so much on what's missing in the relationship. Easier said than done, I know.
