So, that's my question for you. Did you listen? Really? Or did you pressure without meaning to.
Is your W shy? Does it help if she's tipsy? There must be soemthing she likes? I like it when my husband buys me something he likes to see me wear. It makes me feel special.
LS, I've been at this for ten years. Ten years of praying, ten years of suffering. I feel as though I tried it all. Acts of kindness, loving words, back rubs, preparing special meals. Pressure? At one point, I simply quit pursuing sexual activity with her, since it led to either rejection or obligatory sex, (and yes, all the while there was daily non-sexual touching), just to see how long it could go before she would eventually give in and perhaps show some interest in sex; I got my answer - she could go for a lifetime without it. As far as she is concerned, the real problem with our marriage is the fact that I not only have this disgusting desire for sexual contact with my spouse, but am rude enough to make it an issue.
Originally Posted By: Light Seeker
I like it when my husband buys me something he likes to see me wear. It makes me feel special.
If it were only so easy. My wife is modest in the extreme; no kidding, she has a figure most 18 year old girls would kill their best friend to have, yet has never worn a stitch of lingerie or sexy attire, and won't consider it(she says it just isn't "her"). I called her beautiful every day, and I know it made her feel special. What it never did make her feel was horny.
Some people, I believe, are just born LD. Physical issues, psychological issues, I don't know and I no longer care. I've often thought if my own son (previous M) ever found himself married to an LD woman, my advice to him would be to get out ASAP.
Sorry if this sounds harsh, but today, that's the way it is.
