Thanks FA - I will check out that book - when I can get to a book store. I am trying to keep calm and focus on me and my D. My new job is exhausting - I have alot of studying to do and take exams weekly to move on to the next level of training. I actually got on my treadmill the other day - big step for me. My H emailed me Sunday night he wanted to see my D on MOnday night. I called him back and said fine. My daughter waited with her coat on for an hour - we left 2 voice mails - he never showed. I just dont get him. This is a man who would tell me "that little girl means the world to me - I would do anything for her". I guess actions speak louder than words. Maybe he associates her with me - like we are a package deal and in order to move on he has distanced himself from her too or maybe he is just too selfish having fun with OW and thinks oh I'll pick up visitation when the D is final. I dont know? I am using your advice and not using "you statements" when I email of phone. In fact when he did not show last night - I left a simple voice mail very nicely stating what happened Isabella was waiting - maybe you should let me know a little further in advance if you cant make it - thanks. WHen I felt like saying - you jerk your daughter was sitting in her coat for an hour waiting for you - there is no excuse not to pick up the phone and say you cant make it. TO date his last visit with her was 1/3 - thats 26 days. I could not imaging not seeing her that long.
