All Hope is lost/Help - Part 2

[Jen_Jam]

H always turns it round to make me feel that i'm unreasonable

Like the holiday he wanted to go on? So you're "holding him back"?
This sounds familiar. I got the same "we never see our friends anymore".... so I dropped ALL control, all demands and lo and behold guess who wasn't phoning our friends that often to see if they wanted to go out?

I suppose I'm saying here you've spotted a negative pattern of behaviour in your R with H. Not getting into the blame game, it's not about right and wrong .... but think about what you can do to break this cycle? It looks like you're in the role of parent to his child at the moment ... OK you have kids so they come first (I don't have kids so will never tell anyone how to parent) ... but is there any other stuff which can change? Have a think .... this could be a useful 180.