he said something like "but how r we going to work on things if we are not seeing each other"
she is still calling him (and he's still talking to her)
He says he is trying to slowly let it go, that he told her they r just friends now and that eventually he'll stop all contact, that right now he is too weak to confront her.
I really really need your advice as of how this S should go.
Cat, I couldn't help but think about your post of a few days ago where you wrote that H had brought up the idea of Separation and was gently insisting on it against your will for it. Now that you are bringing it up, H is acting like it's something out of left field. I'm afraid that if you are not careful and mindful that Sep will become not a venue for the battle for the marriage, but just another venue for the ongoing MLC craziness and ongoing triangle.
I agree with LIN that it is important to have a financial separation, so that you and H can become less fused. It is important for H to find out that you are not financially dependent on him, this gives you more power in the relationship.
As far as contact goes, the kids need to have contact with him, but you do not. It will give you more power in the relationship for H to find out that you are not emotionally dependent upon him and will no longer tolerate his contact with OW.
