I get the feeling that her parents wont give her the money which they have given in the past and now she is saying bad things about them. Now it sounds like she expects you to bail her out. If you do and then she needs to be bailed out again and you refuse, then she will just say the same thing about you as her parents. You just have to let her get herself out of this. OM surely cant help her. She needs to take responsibility for her own mess. Maybe she fails. Maybe utter failure is what she needs to come to a real awakening.
I feel for your situation as you sound like you are trying so hard. You are deligent in analyzing your progress, but it seems like you are not getting very far with her. Will she ever come out of her depressed state - no one knows that and only she can do it.
