My dogs are wonderful. They give me all their love and ask for hardly anything in return. Last night I was feeling pretty lonely and was laying on the couch listening to a record when my boy dog came over to me. He gave me a little lick on the forehead and then laid down next to me. Such a beautiful gesture from a seemingly simple creature.
As for goals... I tried setting some when I first read the book. I soon realized that they were too ambitious and abandoned them. I kind of go with the flow right now and it seems to be working. I think that I used the experiment and monitor results more than the setting goals stuff from the book. I suppose that I do set a small goal in my head and work to reach that. Right now I'm working on making contact with W on a regular basis. I hadn't heard from her all day, so I called her tonight. We had a decent 20 minute conversation and she thanked me for calling her, so I look at that as a positive. So that's a small goal accomplished for tonight. Tomorrow's goal will be the same and I'll stick with it until contact becomes a regular thing.
I never really set personal goals but not because I didn't think that I had anything to work on. Instead, I do some soul searching and when I find something that I need to work on I make a change. I'll continue with that change for a while and then will reassess where I'm at. If the change has been helpful and made my life more positive, then I'll stick with it.
I'm sorry if this hasn't been real helpful, but it's how I'm approaching life right now. I think that you're right in that it's hard to see the positives when you're not looking at the big picture. I have to remind myself to be happy even when I'm with her sometimes since it's easy to get caught up with thinking that she'll be gone again all too soon. Thanks for the reminder to look at the big picture.
Peace, B
Me: 29 W: 28 T: 10 M: 7 No kids 2 Dogs and 1 Cat With Parents: 09/16/07 Apartment: 10/13/07 Back Home: ~2/16/2008
