I share many of your feelings. I'm afraid a song will remind her of OM. Being physical again has been hard. But like you said, I'm not the first man she was ever with - I wait - I was! Ha.
But seriously, if I were single now, almost any woman I would date would have had other relationships. They're in the past and it's silly to be jealous. This one is a little more recent and hurts a little more, but still, in a way, she just used to date someone before she met me (this time).
I'm 99% sure my W's A is over. I also believe the OM would be an idiot not to try to communicate with her. He knew he had a good thing. I'm just a little nervouse of that happening. but like y'all have adviced me, if it does, it does, deal with it then.
M45, W45,S15, D10, Bomb 10/3/06, Moved back in 11/6/06, finally ILY 9/07 last thread