Help, it seems my 35 year old wife is in MLC #11

[Cinderellaman]

Yep, it will be 2 years on February 18 - BOMBDROP day !

H left in September 2006 and started his PA with ow in November 2006 after having an EA for nearly 2 years with her.

[missmyfriend]

Not saying this to shut down discussions about the length of time we have endured this but I think, Imageer, that you understand time means nothing here. From what you have shared, I would agree with you about the future of your M restoration.

I am very impressed with you and your loyalty to your family.

[Imageer]

Thanks MMF. I agree, time is on our side.

[Imageer]

I was talking to S8 tonight and he told me that W is into archery. This made me laugh because it is just another sign of MLC / Replay. In W replay has very much taken the form of doing things that she use to do when she was a teen. She builds puzzles, she draws and paints. She does anchery. She goes skiing. I have even noticed her was watching the TV shows and movies that she watched when she was younger. With the exception of the movies, she has not don any of these things as long as I have known her (15 years). She would talk about it now and then, but never did it.

I also find it interesting that while she is having an R with OW, she still watches the steroetypical love stories and romantic comedies.

[plentyhope]

Imageer,

I also find it interesting that while she is having an R with OW, she still watches the steroetypical love stories and romantic comedies.

She can't be confused, can she? At least she's still got her foot on this side of the fence - the straight side. Hope you had a reasonable day despite it being your S anniversary.

[missmyfriend]

Hey Imageer. How are you?

I agree with PH that the "normal" love stories are good.

[Grace_O]

I also find it interesting that while she is having an R with OW, she still watches the steroetypical love stories and romantic comedies.

Perhaps she should try "The Libertine" A rather dark and twisted look at things, but definately a love story (of sorts).

You sound like you're holding up ok today. I hope that's the case. My 1 yr anniversary was tougher than I expected.

[Imageer]

No, she couldn't be confused at all! MlCers are the most level headed people aren't they? .... oooohhhhh the sarcasm!

I agree that she is not sure of her actions. I think confusion is a huge part of this. Maybe a little peer pressure as well.

The day went ok. I relaxed a little more as the day went on. I'm busy at work so that was at least distracting.

[Cinderellaman]

I was talking to S8 tonight and he told me that W is into archery. This made me laugh because it is just another sign of MLC / Replay. In W replay has very much taken the form of doing things that she use to do when she was a teen. She builds puzzles, she draws and paints. She does anchery. She goes skiing. I have even noticed her was watching the TV shows and movies that she watched when she was younger. With the exception of the movies, she has not don any of these things as long as I have known her (15 years). She would talk about it now and then, but never did it.

I also find it interesting that while she is having an R with OW, she still watches the steroetypical love stories and romantic comedies.

When I told my H a few weeks ago, that he was acting like the boy I fell in love with (meaning a teenager) he took it as a compliment and said, 'yes I have found myself again...I had lost myself...now it's back !'

[Imageer]

I don't know what W is up to.....

The other day she came to me and said that S8 came to her and wanted to switch with her and I every 2 weeks instead of every week as we do now. I thought it was a case of S8 missing his mother and figuring in his 8 year old mind that if we switch every 2 weeks he will see his mother more. I discussed this with him and told him that it was ok if he wanted to do this but he would also not see his mother for 2 weeks when he was with me. He then decided that 1 week as it is now would be better. (The kids see me almost every day because I pick them up from school)

So I told W this yesterday and then today she is adiment that switching to 2 weeks is better. She tells me that she has "Spoken to people" and they say that it is better for the kids because it gives them more stability. (nevermind that a month hasn't gone by where she hasn't wanted to change the schedule because she has something to do) She then goes on to say that it wasn't her idea, it was S8s and then she basically contradicts herself by saying that we have to not listen to what they want, we have to do what we think is best because we are the adults so we should do 2 weeks.

I'm wondering if she has some other motive for 2 weeks that she is not saying.

I told her that we can try it but she should be open to the idea that the kids may not like it. Ofcourse not agreeing with her totally has annoyed her and her tone changed completely.

I'm scratching my head a little over this one.