I wasn't really paying attention, so I can't remember why the 2 of you went out separately Saturday night. He seems to think you were going out to have male companionship, and went and found himself female companionship, perhaps to spite you. It all sounds like a big misunderstanding and lack of communication leading to a problem that will push the 2 of you into divorce. But why? What was the reason?
sara, he won't 'give up' his night outs at his favorite bar, and I refuse to go there (where he dated OW), nor has he invited me. If I made plans for us on the weekend, I don't even know if he would go. So, I decided to not stay home anymore, and I get a sitter and go out. Sometimes by myself, sometimes with friends. He once agreed to stay home one night so I could go out and the first week, he totally bailed on me, so now I just hire a sitter and don't even ask.
He doesn't want to go out with me on the weekends. Honestly I believe he loves his freedom too much when he is out.
You are right, LWB. He is a married man who won't look in the mirror and see who he is. He can't have it both ways. He can't be married and dating/free. He is asking for the treatment that you are giving him. (Actually worse, you are so sweet, he deserves much worse.) Too bad we can't fix up some of the shrew-type wives from this board with the self-absorbed, cheating husbands. Kind of like a scene from "No Exit" by Sartre.
