The problem is that any relationship started when you are still married, or in the midst of divorce (and still broken and full of baggage), isn't based on anything substantial. It's just ego building and a bandaid. People using each other. For example, what kind of emotionally healthy person want's someone in the midst of a divorce and all the emotional upheaval that occurs during one? It just isn't a good way to create anything real or substantial.... and it isn't right to use people.
Although I completely understand the feelings behind it. I've felt them too, but thinking about the bigger picture has always made it easier for me to stick to my own personal boundries.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
