Hummmm.... well you handled it well and it sounds like some of her anger may have receded. That's very good. Now keep up he good work on being pleasant, a great listener, avoiding personal relationship talk, and a validator of feelings... when opportunities like you've described arise.

Don't expect any big changes soon. This is a very very VERY slow and gradual process. It's like reeling in a big fish.

Also, keep up the good physical looks and the cologne. Yeeeeeeah!

There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.