Lillieperl, it doesn't get better unless you figure out what's the root of the problems and work on them - together.
Well, not to be a wet blanket, but figuring out what's at the root and working together doesn't always work either. We went to three different couples counselors (over a five year period) and also saw therapists on our own (he still goes to his). I think we know what a lot of the problems are. For instance, my bf is a recovering alcoholic. We did work on things together, but it just wasn't enough to make it work. It was like sticking jello to a wall. We're not married, no kids... "working on it" just wasn't working. As it is, we've had an extremely peaceful shift in our relationship (I can't really call it a breakup, because nothing has basically changed, except we're not pretending to be lovers any more. We last had sex over a year ago.)
For those who are married and have kids the stakes are much higher, obviously.
