Ongoing affair, D papers filed, advice wanted

[SirPrizeMe]

An update of our first interaction after the letter.

when she dropped the kids off, at my friend's house where I am staying, she got out of the car and came into the house. No need for that, of course, but she did it anyway. I was looking good, shaved, wearing cologne, smiling. Hugged all our kids in front of her.

So off she went to the event, I had a nice time with the kids. When we met to exchange the kids, out at a restaurant parking lot, she again got out of the car. Again, there's no need for that. The kiddos were all giddy and jolly; we had had a good time. As the kids got into her car, I hugged em all, made em all giggle.

I made to leave, following the "break away first" approach. The doors of her car closed, and she started talking to me. So I stopped. I asked about her afternoon, the training event she attended, she explained what it was. I was interested, I mirrored her physical stance, I talked with her about it, asked her questions. (It has to do with art, which she loves, and teaching art to elementary school kids. I really love her passion around art. Always have. It was one of the first things that attracted me to her. She knows this. I did not say anything about this. )

Again I made to leave. She held me back, asked me a question about custody for the kids' spring break coming up. We talked about that and planned to resolve it later. I mentioned that I also want to talk about a formal custody plan, too. (she's resisted any discussion along those lines). And I asked her about the terms of sale on our prior (vacant) house.

Then again I made to leave. And then she stopped me and thanked me for the letter I wrote to her. She smiled. "Thanks for reading it," I said. I smiled too. Then I left without further delay. No looking back longingly.