Karen1, so are you saying that he's scared of fully giving himself to me? We both do things w/ our own friends. He'll go to the movies w/ his buddies, about every other Friday night he goes out and has a few drinks after work, stuff like that. And I have "girls night", run w/ a bunch of girls once a week after work, stuff like that. He enjoys playing video games, while I sit upstairs and read. So we both enjoy spending time together, but can have fun w/out each other too. Is that kind of what you're saying? Or are you saying something else?
Talking about emotional distance, I find myself doing that. I go through phases where I emotionally distance myself from him. Just pecks and not real kisses. Not much hand holding, I get upset w/ him over piddly crap. I start to build a wall. I do that so that I won't get hurt, b/c he hurts me every day. But then, I get over it. I'm sure it's normal to go through these phases, but I hate doing it. Mostly b/c I get mad at him for some stupid reason, and then I'm the "psycho wife" that's pissed at him all the time! So, I tell him when I'm going through one of those phases, and he knows to kind of "stand back" and give me some room. It's really helped me overcome them.
Yea, now that I'm reading that, it's probably not real healthy for me to do that. . .
I'll definitely have to pick up that book.
Kellie ------ Me - 27 H - 31 S - born 8/18/2007 Married - 4/24/2005 Together - 7/03/2002
