Before that, though, the sex conflict was beginning to morph into your basic garden variety power struggle and threatening to destabilize the whole relationship. Spending time with him just wasn't as fun anymore, and I found myself tending to want to deny him what I knew he held dear just for the sake of revenge ... very unlike me. The tension accompanying the unresolved sex/touch issues began to cloud and poison every interaction.
Yeah, that's what usually happens. If you think your relationship is great except for the sex, take a moment to think about what would happen if one of you said "what's wrong, honey" and the other said "I'm kind of sexually frustrated right now".
In most of these cases, that would sound an awful lot like an accusation to the one hearing the bit about sexual frustration, and the conversation would not go well from there. Which would indicate that there are other problems besides just the lack of sex.
a fine and enviable madness, this delusion that all questions have answers, and nothing is beyond the reach of a strong left arm.
