I am recently seperated from my wife. So here's my story.
Married 21 years. Had always been best friends. Kids moved out to go to college, S moved out last year and D moved out in August. Wife and I were getting along really well up until about Oct. W was seeing a counselor for her weight issues and she came home from one of the meetings and wanted to talk about what was wrong with our relationship, I didn't react well, got angry wanted to know why, when were getting along better than we had in a long time, we couldnt just enjoy each other.
Since that time she has grown more distant and before the holidays she brought up a trial seperation, I was devestated and didn't think it was a good plan. Needless to say I was hurt and didn't always handle myself in the best ways during the holidays. There were many fights and she brought up, pretty much, every bad thing I had ever said or done clear back to the time we were dating.. She won't or can't seem to forgive me. After many disucssions regard seperating I finally moved out last thursday. It was just easier for me to stay at the fire hall and let her stay at the house and it was a heck of alot easier than fighting. We talked last Saturday and she dropped the "I love you but I am not in love with you" bomb on me. I was devestated further to say the least. I still love her very much. And I don't know what to do, I ordered one of Michelle's books but I am just lost.
Just to clarify when I say "all the bad things I have ever said or done", I have never cheated on my wife. I always thought I was a good husband, I don't go out and party with my buddies, I love spending time with her. We have had our arguments and during those arugments things have been said and she seems to have a photographic memory for those. It feels, to me, that she brings all those things up as an excuse to be angry with me and to justify our seperation. I don't belive and she has stated that there is no one else.
I am not sure if what she is going through is a midlife crisis or what? Heck I am not too sure about much right now.
I guess I am just looking for some support right now..
