How do I begin piecing??

[MichelleLT]

Yeah, the secrecy thing definitely makes a huge difference. The reason H suspected this guy friend of mine was because I talked about him too much I guess. I never hid anything from my H. Although, ironically, I'm way better at keeping secrets - H totally sucks at it.

When things started to take off with Craig's List and OW though, he was hiding stuff on his computer, minimizing their chat windows, etc. He obviously felt he had something to keep secret.

Although, if she really is a complete lesbian and not bi, then it might as well have been 3 guys living in that house together other than the fact that she obviously likes to talk and listen like most women do.

My H also had BAD experiences with the military counselors and psychologists. He hated the mandatory post-deployment counseling he had to do and lied his a$$ off so he could get his "normal" stamp and get out of there faster. I think that was one reason he was so hesitant to go to MC and had this view that somehow it was about "fixing" him and since there was nothing wrong with him there was no reason to go. On a side note, did you ever look into vet center? They offer a lot of free services and I have heard WONDERFUL things about them from guys in my unit.