Did you remember to say I understand why you feel that way? Or did you get defensive and continue the R talk?
I'm not sure it's such a set-back as you think it is. She is giving you insight into her doubts, that's a big thing and you should stay focused on that.
Michelle, you're exactly right! After this weekend, it's clear that this wasn't really a set-back. More on that later...
It was frustrating, because all I can say is "I can see why you feel that way, and I'm sorry". Her response: that's not good enough. It's like she wants me to be punished, and I can understand that.
Originally Posted By: MichelleLT
It's only pretending if you are only making these changes just to get her back. Otherwise, it takes 21 repetitions to make a habit and your act as if's will become permanent habits.
That's a great perspective, I can see that happening already. Thanks!
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Me: 30 W: 28 T 8, M 6 S: 7-27-2007 W filed (again) 3-2011 Served 8-2011 Responded, now dark "I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK
