I just want to make it better. . .

[seekpeaceofmind]

I know it sounds from what I wrote above that I did all the talking, but that's not the case. Although, I did talk more, because he doesn't say much. I think he was also a little stuck, because he didn't seem to expect my objections to his decision. It was interesting that he didn't use the D word - just "separation". I don't think that means anything other than another sign of conflict avoidance.

I hope I didn't push him further away - but I thought it was important to show him another way out. I told him that this doesn't have to be an "all or nothing deal" - that we can have M and have dif lives. Maybe I should have done the "set him free" route. I am really stressed with second-guessing myself all the time. At least this way, I got to say some of the things on my mind and he knows where I stand. I played no games and I don't think he did either.