I am still trying to figure out why he is still there if he wants a separation. I feel that if he truly wanted it or should I say knew he wanted it he would be working on it.
You do have to make some decisions about how much more you are willing to take before you decide to file for D or kick his ass to the curb for a while. But maybe being a little more patient but seeting some more personal boundries are in order for the time being.
You could tell him that if he wants these things that he will have to do them on his own but that you will not stand in his way but, that you would rather try to work through them as long as it is just the two of you working on it. If he can't do that then you will make your own life without him and be happy, you would just rather it be with him.
BUT, maybe you have already said this a million times and i have missed it in your posts.
You see im an optimist and I would rather think positive until there is concrete proof otherwise but i still look at it from all angles most of the time, and yes it was cold Saturday nite I have thought of that angle also, Just trying to look at it more positive.
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
