Mopsey - I think a bit of your h ENJOYS his pity parties. I have followed your thread for a long time now, and I think you are very kind and compassionate.
These MLCers are all emotional teenagers at bottom, and yours is the kind who lies in a room he has painted black, luxuriating in his grief!
Goodness, I would want to slap him good and hard.
My take on all of this would be to remain brisk and pleasant. Only he can sort himself out, and I do wonder if you are facilitating his self pity by being sooooo nice. I don't intend any criticism. Goodness knows that dealing with MLC bs tests the patience of an angel.
I am not advocating being nasty, just a bit less soft with him. Self pity [as we all know] can get to be a habit.
