Ahhh...Thannkyou, now I get it...at the mo, I am waiting for him to come to me a little, enough to negotiate some contact, but that doesnt mean that hes still not going to be in this depression/MLC whatever for a long time to come. Be great for some advice on my thread, thankyou! I think partly why its SO hard right now, is we moved so far from friends and family, and then he did this...