FWIW, All of our friends and family knew. He went so crazy that he actually took OW to lunch with his dad. I worked with the public and the whole town knew. Way too many people. Maybe. I'm not really sure if it was a mistake or not.
Like Joe said, your true friends will respect your decisions to live your life according to your own principles. Maybe finding out who your true friends are isn't such a bad thing.
It was HELL on him to have to face everyone. But, the fact that he cut everyone off and went into a cave just before he totally recommitted to us may have been a catalyst. Facing everyone was part of "crawling over broken glass" for me and helped me begin to trust him again. Our true friends gave him Hell, told him he was nuts to risk losing me, he agreed (reaffirming his renewed committment) and I got the storybook ending.
Meanwhile, they were holding me up. I thought my Mother would kill him. I thought my Father would. I was wrong, they support our family and are prouder of me than they have ever been because "I was so strong and brave". His Dad worked with me when he realized I just wanted his son happy again. He called me just last month to thank me for not giving up on his son. I've been luckier than smart though... I admit that. Every sitch is different.
